Media and Resources | Radical Relating

Group Relationships Among Consensually Non-Monogamous People.

Featured expert on Relationship Anarchy

It's Not All About Sex

Interview for Polyamory Day on behalf of the CPAA

This is What It's Actually Like To Be Non Monogamous

Article for Newsweek

The Other Woman Goes On Record

Featured expert for Elle article on Solo Polyamory.

Happy, Loved, Free: How We Make Open Relationships Work

Featured expert on open relationships.

The Monogamy Hangover

Interview on Sex Is Medicine Radio with Devi Ward Erickson

An intimate look at Vancouver’s growing polyamory community

Featured expert for Vancouver Courier on Polyamory.

Radical Relationships

Special guest on Collective Conversations podcast.

The Historical Origins of Neo Tantra

Discussion about Traditional Tantra vs Neo Tantra, with Devi Ward Erickson

Radio Canada

Interview with Radio Canada. Article in French.

Honest Non Monogamy

Interview with Awaken In Relationship Podcast

Polyamory Done Right

Podcast interview with Ryan Thomas of Modern Sex Talks

Fatherly

Featured expert on infidelity for Fatherly.com

All We Cannot Say

Interview on All We Cannot Say Podcast, on Relationship Anarchy

Roundhouse Radio: Polyamory

Interview on Polyamory on the Janice and Cory Show

Great Intimacy Begins With Healthy Boundaries

Interview with Awaken In Relationship Podcast

Polyamory 101: Everything You Need To Know

Featured Expert on Polyamory

The Shadow Side of Polyamory

Podcast interview with author and host James W Jesso, Adventures Through The Mind Radio

The Liberating Potential of Non Monogamy

podcast Interview with Jessi Kneeland

The Shadow of Monogamy – Love and Normative Relational Exclusivity

conversation with Ayama founder Dr. Lars Weckbecker

Polyamory & Breakups

interview with Elizabeth Cunningham on Grief in Polyamory

Relationship Anarchy vs Libertarianism

interview with Nicole, Modern Anarchy Podcast

The Tender Art Of Breaking Up

interview with Awake In Relationship Podcast

Beyond Monogamy

interview with Jaia Bristow, Beyond Boxes Podcast

My Partner Is Having A Mental Health Crisis

guest on Making Polyamory Work podcast with Libby Sinback

Relationship Anarchy Takes The Judgement Out Of Love

Interview with The Establishment.

How My Life Improved After I Stopped Searching For "The One"

Featured expert on non-monogamy.

What Polyamory Taught Me About Love

Article by Corin Faife for Refinery29 UK

The Monogamy Hangover

Interview with Practising Polyamory Podcast

Honest Non Monogamy

Interview with The Nutrition Translator Podcast

Trauma Informed Non Monogamy

Interview on Sex Is Medicine Radio with Devi Ward Erickson

Our Relationship To Psychedelic Healing

Podcast interview with author and host James W Jesso, Adventures Through The Mind Radio

Leading Edge Love Radio

Interview by Sumati Sparks, on Non-Monogamy

The Monogamy Detox

6-week online, life-time access workshop, runs every spring & fall.

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Somatic Experiencing

Trauma-Informed Work based on mind-body integration practices

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Coaching

Start Your Radical Relationship Journey Today

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For Helping Professionals

Mentorship for professionals working with clients practicing Consensual Non Monogamy

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The Book

Coming Sept 2025 from North Atlantic Books & Penguin Random House

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Insight Timer

Access Meditations for supporting your Non-Monogamy Journey

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Workshops

Online and In Person Workshops

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Nanaimo, Canada

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Pennsylvania, USA

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Anon

Vancouver, Canada

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Laurie,

Costa Rica

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Seattle, Washington

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Victoria, Canada

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California, USA

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Dave
Nanaimo, BC

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Ireland

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Atlanta, Georgia

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Anon

Colorado, USA

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James

Victoria, BC, Canada

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Anon

Edmonton, AB, Canada

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Anon Workshop Participant

BC, Canada

"It was so good for me to open up and a relief to see that things don't have to be so black and white but within this there is still the possibility of clarity and a more personal, creative and radical approach to relationships... Love what you are offering Mel. You are awesome at what you are doing! It was great for me to be out of my comfort zone and to hear from folks who appeared to be very much in theirs. Thank you!"

Anon Course Student

"Mel has been an incredibly valuable asset to me in helping to evolve my relationship skills and helping me to empathize with my partners. Her workshops and her coaching have drastically improved the communication level and quality of my relationships."

Gabriel

BC, Canada

"This was my first polyam-related workshop, and I really loved it. Mel was an excellent facilitator: welcoming, knowledgeable, professional, well defined boundaries at beginning, knew when to stay on a subject and when to move on, etc. I was incredibly impressed and would love to attend more!"

Anon

Non Monogamy 101 Workshop Participant

"I first took the class in spring 2020. The experience was like a seed planted in the garden that sprouted and continues to sink deeper roots and grow taller, reaching for the sun and remaining an important part of my relationship garden"

~ Paul, Monogamy Detox Course Student
USA

"I desperately knew in my bones there was another script out there for me but when I struggled to find a healthy version of one, I haphazardly began writing it myself. And now?! To come into an entire community of people actively peeling back the veil to reveal their own trauma and vulnerability?? I am over the moon and feel so enthusiastic all the time. It's the first time in the last several years where I have had such sustained joy and direction."

~ Anon Course Student
Colorado

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Sunday's class was a deeply nourishing in ways I didn't know I missed / needed. THANK YOU!

I look forward to your next session!"

Joan Trinh Pham

Vancouver, BC, Canada

Mel is an exceptional communicator and listener. Having known her personally and attended several of her workshops I can attest that she has the rare combination of perspective and presentation that many more experienced facilitators lack. I highly recommend her offerings.

Anon

BC, Canada

Mel has been a tremendous source of inspiration for my relationships and my community at large. She presents with a combination of professionalism, knowledge and open-minded curiosity that makes her safe and approachable. My profound journey through love and relationships has definitely been helped through the time I have spent with Mel.

Erin
Rotterdam, Netherlands

"Your work has reminded me that perhaps there isn’t anything wrong with me at all. I am amazed at the deep levels of shame we carry as human beings because we don’t fit into the construct that is given to us as a model for our life. It feels exciting because I can now explore what I want for my life rather than be gifted something that just doesn’t feel right for me."

Craig P

Australia

I just wanted to take a moment and thank you for your coaching yesterday. It really helped me to focus in on what mattered and what I want and to know where I stand in my relationship and with these shiny new polyboots!

The conversation with my partner went amazingly well. Like really really well. We found much common ground and even discovered our common kinks. I am feeling so loved and supported and ready for this next adventure. Thank you for being a part of that!

Anon

Vancouver, Canada

Mel maintains a calm demeanor with low pressure conversation. She's approachable and accessible. She cares. It shows. Her passion for intimacy and relationship actualization shines through. Sex positive, poly aware, and kink aware, Mel is a very versatile specialist and adviser - the perfect counselling choice no matter how simple or complicated your concern or situation is.

Victor

BC, Canada

"You've already made a VERY positive impact on me. It feels so much better to feel you in my corner. Thank you again and again and again..."

Anon

Alberta, Canada

Mel's skill and comfort with questioning and reformulating beliefs regarding relationships is contagious. If you want to open up to new possibilities, she can be a resource for you.

Nick

BC, Canada

"Thank you for your kind help and wisdom at such a fragile time - I appreciate it so much and it helped a lot."

Anon

Australia

"Your workshop was SO helpful and amazing. THANK YOU! Magnificent and earth-moving! Like moving things that have felt stuuuuuck!"

Anon Workshop Participant

Portland, Oregon

Just wanted to send my deep gratitude and appreciation for your workshop. I let go of some self-indictments around believing something "different" about love, and was able to move towards being more in integrity with myself (and those with whom I relate). I was also able to become really clear about my core "essentials" in relationships (whether monogamous or non-monogamous; romantic/sexual, emotional, social/community or other), and am certain these breakthroughs will only serve my own wellbeing and the wellbeing of those I have relationships with now and in the future more than I can even comprehend.

Anon

Victoria, BC, Canada

I’m so very appreciative for you, your humanness and your work.

Tiffany

Massachusetts, USA

"After the workshop I felt like I could breathe again. I felt like my version of non-monogamy wasn't "wrong" and, even more helpful, my former partners wasn't either. I connected with people thinking of the same things as I was, struggling with the same things, and asking questions like me. I cried. I breathed. And for the first time in my life I didn't feel like a love alien dropped onto this planet."

~ Anon,
BC Canada

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