In case no one has told you lately: it’s okay if you want multiple partners; it’s great and healthy to feel an abundance in your life that you want to share with more people.

But wanting non-monogamy isn’t enough to make it happen, partners don’t ‘manifest’ out of thin air, and practicing healthy non-monogamy can be a journey that involves self-work, learning new relating skills, and figuring out new ways of thinking beyond binaries that encompass the full spectrum complexity of open relationships.

We’re fortunate to live in a time where there are many great resources to support anyone wanting to explore non-monogamy: books, blogs, podcasts, and social media channels dedicated to consensual non-monogamy can now be easily found and accessed with a quick internet search.

However, books can’t teach you everything, blogs tend to focus on one (or two or three) individual’s experiences only, podcasts are rarely personalised to you, and social media is beholden to algorithms which can affect the information you receive and influence what content creators create.

On top of that, the level of ‘expertise’ varies greatly, perspectives are often culturally skewed, and there are still not many resources that are dedicated to trauma-informed non-monogamy.

There’s no “one-size fits all” to Consensual Non-Monogamy — or as I often think of it, Honest Non Monogamy. And that’s one of the reasons I started offering workshops about Non-Monogamy eight years ago. What started as a small gathering at a festival grew into a full day class, and then evolved into three separate virtual workshops.

Now, for the first time, I’m offering these virtual workshops together as a package, and adding in additional materials, resources, and worksheets, to create a comprehensive immersion for anyone who wants to take an honest, collaborative, trauma sensitive and somatically grounded approach to their non-monogamy.

• You’re new to Consensual Non-Monogamy and looking for guidance, and you want more than books, blogs, podcasts, and social media can offer.
• You’ve been practicing Non-Monogamy for a while but find yourself feeling stuck or having challenges.
• You want to take a trauma-informed approach to your non-monogamy.
• You resonate with what you’ve read/heard about Relationship Anarchy and Solo Polyamory.
• You desire multiple loving relationships: you aren’t just interested in “unicorning”, finding a third, or swinging/casual relationships.
• You learn well in group environments.
• You enjoy subverting patriarchal, heteronormative, and colonial norms.
• You’re keen to find sustainable, practical tools to support you in your non-monogamous relationships.
• You are ready to dedicate time to learning, engaging, and applying new skills and frameworks to your relationships.

• One Year’s Access to 5 lessons of premium content, including worksheets, audio recordings, and more.
• One Year’s Recording Access To 3 workshops: The What, Why, and Where of Non Monogamy; Navigating Complex Relationships; and Boundaries & Agreements.
• 4 Exclusive E-Books/Workbooks: The Guide To Non Monogamous Dating; Relationship Nourishing & Grounding; Vectors of Power and Privilege; Boundaries and Agreements Workbook
• Lifetime online access to the Radical Relating community.
• 10% discount on any individual or group relationship coaching for 12 months from when you sign up. 

This course is an opportunity for an immersion into the skills and practices for healthy, successful non-monogamy, with the support of a community of peers and a professional relationship coach, specifically from a Relationship Anarchist set of values.

This course is trauma-informed: everything we explore comes from a place of understanding that trauma is a consequence of experiences that overwhelm us beyond our capacity to engage, and that multiple-partner relationships can be overwhelming. The work we do follows four principles of trauma-informed relating: Creating Safety, Supporting Healing, Nurturing Resilience, and Actively Engaging.

This course is also an introduction to my coaching work — if you’re new (or new-ish) to Non Monogamy and looking for guidance, this course is a much more cost-effective way to lay the foundations for your non-monogamous relationships. Coaching can then support you anytime you feel stuck, want to trouble-shoot, or want some personalised coaching for your specific situation.

The workshops in this course offer an opportunity to be with a global community of peers, to learn within a group setting where you can hear different experiences and perspectives, and share your own.

The additional course materials, in the form of audio recordings, worksheets, and transcribed videos, provide further support, information, and troubleshooting for specific situations you may encounter in your relationships.

The course content is infused with values of Relationship Anarchy, Queerness, Feminism, and Anti-Colonialism. The course community space seeks to be actively anti-racist, trans-inclusive, and anti-ableist.

This is a space to get messy, real, and honest about what you want, what challenges you, and what you have capacity for in your relationship landscape. You’ll get to ask your questions, meet other folks exploring non-monogamy, hear new perspectives, and come away with a depth and breadth of wisdom.

Whether you are solo (and embarking on the journey of honest, consensual non-monogamy as a singleish or unpartnered individual), or in an existing relationship looking to open up, you’ll learn how to identify what forms of non-monogamy you are seeking. You’ll discover new language to articulate and describe your desires and your boundaries, and you’ll be supported by tools, practices and reflections based on trauma-informed and somatic practices.

If you’re already practicing non-monogamy, this course invites you to refresh your perspective, embrace new ideas, and inspire relational habits that will enhance the experience of all your relationships. 

• a replacement or substitution for healing work with a qualified professional therapist.
• something you follow just by reading along.
• for couples seeking to ‘fix’ their relationship by opening up.
• for anyone who doesn’t like challenging patriarchy, racism, and colonialism, either in themselves or in others.
• heteronormative.
• for anyone who does not want to be in a non-monogamous relationship.

My name is Mel, and I’m a relationship coach who guides social misfits and cultural rebels to experiences of joyful, embodied, authentic, open relationships.

I’m a white-presenting 2nd generation settler of MENAHT and Celtic/Anglo descent. I was born in the UK, grew up in Kuwait, and Canada has been my home since 2004. I am grateful and humbled to live, love, study and share, as a visitor on the beautiful and sacred Unceded territory of the K’òmoks First Nation, which are traditional territories of the K’omoks, Pentlach, Homalco, Wei Wei Kai, Wei Wei Kum, and Tla’amin peoples — people who have been in relationship with this land and these waters for 10,000 years.

I hold a certification in Counselling for Intimacy in Relationships from the Vancouver College of Counselor Training, and am trained in Holistic Peer Counselling and ZEGG Forum facilitation. My current studies are focused on Somatics and Trauma-Informed approaches to healing: I am a student with Somatic Experiencing International, working towards my certification as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. I am also in the process of completing my training as a Somatic Movement Teacher with the Institute of Applied Somatics. I previously studied with the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education.

I have been teaching in one form or another for over 25 years, and currently sit on the faculty at the Vancouver School of Healing Arts, in addition to freelancing non-monogamy and consent workshops and education to schools, institutes, and community groups.

I’m queer, and practice relationship anarchy as a solo polyamorous person. I’m also dyslexic, and live with Long Covid. I’m a survivor of sexual trauma, gaslighting, and complex PTSD.

I practice anti-racism, anti-oppression, and support decolonization.

I refute binary gendered scripts.

I support inclusion.

I advocate for consent culture, feminism, and dismantling the patriarchy.

I support accountability and compassionate community care.

I bring all my experience to the work I do.