by Melina | Apr 5, 2019 | Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
When we hold an expectation of our partner to be everything: best friend, surrogate parent, emotional processor, and the sole person responsible for supplying our life pleasure and happiness, things tend to go awry. We’ve been raised with these expectations, but that...
by Melina | May 7, 2017 | Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy, Relationship Anarchy
“Boundaries are an essential part of life. They delineate and maintain needed borders and separations, making differentiation possible at every level. Boundaries both contain and preserve the integrity of what they are safeguarding, be that physical, psychological,...
by Melina | Aug 31, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
“Some day my prince will come Some day we’ll meet again And away to his castle we’ll go To be happy forever I know” ~Some Day My Prince Will Come, by Frank Churchill and Lorey Morey, from the Walt Disney Movie “Snow White”. The alure of the One True Love....
by Melina | May 7, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
Over the past few weeks, I’ve been preparing for a new workshop that I’m offering with two dear friends. Our workshop is all about relating courageously and compassionately, and so I’ve been thinking about what it means to be authentic in relationships, and how...
by Melina | Jan 23, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy
Again and again, I find that most obstacles in relationships boil down to two things: fear of loss, and difficulty articulating needs and desires. And I consider the question: do these two phenomena have a common root cause? I think so. Perfectionism. Whether it’s...
by Melina | Nov 13, 2015 | Love, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
“To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love. To know how to love someone, we have to understand them. To understand, we need to listen.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh What is Love? What is that feeling of connection, compulsion, that draws us to...
